Assertiveness for Earth Angels: How to Be Loving Instead of "Too Nice"

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Assertiveness for Earth Angels
How to Be Loving Instead of "Too Nice"
by Doreen Virtue

Do people take advantage of your niceness? In this groundbreaking book, Doreen Virtue teaches Earth Angels—extremely sweet people who care more about others' happiness than their own—how to maintain their inner peace and loving nature while at the same time holding boundaries. You'll discover how to overcome fears about saying no, and how to ask for what you want from those around you and from the universe.

Assertiveness for Earth Angels is for anyone who wants to learn the art of speaking up in relationships and in their activism about issues related to the world. Whether you need more assertiveness with your family, on the job, or in your healing work, you'll appreciate Doreen's gentle-but-firm approach to negotiating your earthly needs in heavenly ways!

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Chapter Nine: Toxic Relationships

Earth Angels are “nice” people, with big, open hearts, so they can’t see when they’re involved
in toxic relationships. They excuse and minimize other people’s behavior: “He didn’t mean to act that way. He was having a bad day.”

Even more toxic is when Earth Angels blame themselves for someone’s harsh behavior: “if I were nicer [or thinner, smarter, richer, etc.], then he’d treat me better.” This is nonsense! Don’t take responsibility for someone’s cruel treatment.

Earth Angels tolerate harsh and even abusive relationships because they’re afraid of being alone, being in the wrong, or being judged. They force themselves to rise above mistreatment by disconnecting from their feelings.

Dissociation from your feelings does no one any good. It makes you out of touch with your physical body, which can lead you to overeat without realizing you’re full. It can also lead you to ignore symptoms that need immediate healing treatment.

Dissociation also keeps you from sensing your emotions. When you’re numb, you can’t hear your angels’ messages. Your sensitivity shuts down. since heaven’s messages come on the frequency of your attunement to energy, you need to be in touch with your feelings.

Earth Angels don’t know any better than to stay in a harsh relationship, because they haven’t had a lot of experience with human relationships. After all, they’re used to living in the higher-vibrational realms! this has led them to be socially awkward, and they may feel terribly lonely. So they allow any relationship to persist because they don’t want to be alone.

As an Earth Angel, you’re a teacher for peace. If you take the harsh treatment others dish out, how will they learn? Also, if someone’s treating you harshly, he or she is definitely doing the same to others. By your teaching him or her a better way to behave, you can prevent other people from being mistreated.

Clingy Neediness
Clingy people are insecure individuals who latch onto whoever will acknowledge their existence by giving them attention. As a caring Earth Angel, you can sense that such people need love. The problem is that they’re a bottomless pit of neediness, which neither you nor anyone else can fill. This person is constantly texting, calling, and e-mailing you. He or she may even pop over unannounced for visits. This individual may have a misconceived notion of the degree of your friendship, and mistakenly believe that you’re best friends when you’re actually casual acquaintances.

— How this relationship affects you: This person has you looking over your shoulder constantly in an effort to avoid him or her. You start to feel guilty because you know that this person enjoys your company and feels he or she needs you, even though in a spiritual sense no one needs anyone as their source.

— How to handle this: It’s important for you, as an assertive Earth Angel, to always tell the truth with love. So you’ll need to summon the courage to tell this person that you’re quite busy with projects and need more space. This insecure person will likely feel wounded and take your words personally, but you can’t put your whole life on hold to coddle someone. You’re enabling unhealthy behavior by pretending to be friends. Perhaps there’s someone else who would genuinely enjoy this person’s company, and if you get out of the way by being honest, it leaves room for that new and more appropriate individual to come into his or her life.

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Brilliantly written!, November 4, 2013
By Jacqui - See all my reviews
This book left me wanting to read more. It left me in goosebumps because it is beautiful. If you are seeking to empower your life, read this! Doreen really has poured her heart out in this book so that all of us can live the life we are truly meant to live. Thank you for writing this Doreen and to your angels! I know SO many people will benefit from this to make this world a better place.

Another inspiring and powerful book from Doreen Virtue!, November 1, 2013
By Mystic812 - See all my reviews
Doreen Virtue has hit another home run with her latest book, Assertiveness for Earth Angels, How To Be Loving Instead of "Too Nice". I think anyone can benefit from this book, whether you consider yourself an Earth Angel or not.

wonderful, November 1, 2013
By BookLover - See all my reviews
This book is absolutely wonderful. I liked that this book gave the reader permission to say no and set boundaries. I also appreciated the examples that were given which showed us how to be assertive without being aggressive. I would recommend this book to everyone who is 'too nice' and wants to learn to be loving instead of a 'pushover' or 'too nice'.

Are You Sensitive? If So, Get This Book!, October 29, 2013
By Sarah (Seattle, WA) - See all my reviews
This is such a helpful book! It's perfect for sensitive people who are here to share their gifts with the world but need assistance with setting good boundaries. Good boundaries create great self-care. And, with good self-care, we have the energy and enthusiasm to help others along their path.

this book was written for me, October 16, 2013
By S. Frank (Temecula, CA) - See all my reviews  
...this book is giving me the strength and courage to reclaim my power that I don't think I've ever used in my life. Doreen's background in psychology shines through and compliments nicely with her lessons on spirituality. This came at a very challenging time in my life when curious things started happening in my relationships. I thank her for helping me through this.

An Amazing Gift of Inspriation and Practical Knowledge!, October 11, 2013
By Jan Casebolt Walsh (Long Beach, CA) - See all my reviews
Doreen Virtue has scored another big hit with this amazing book! She has channeled divine wisdom, inspiration and practical knowledge that goes deeper than your usual "self help" book. This is so much more! A guide to those of us that want to see positive change in our lives, our relationships, and our world. Her smooth, conversational, literary style makes one feel as though you're conversing with a best friend. The simple yet profound truths, and her personal sharing make this wisdom for our current world issues well worth the read!

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